Published on July 30th, 2012 | by thevyne3
The Art of Giving Up
I give up.
One sentence, three words, seven letters and arguably one of the most taboo sentiments one can express in our competitive society. No one wants to be a quitter. No one wants to admit they gave up.
Popular ‘how to be successful’ rhetoric boasts themes of going the distance, leaning in, making sacrifices, pushing yourself to the limit, and playing to win – all of which have merit, I’m sure. I’m actually certain of it. (London 2012, anyone?) However, rarely is the lens placed on the moment when the race, or the competition, is … over. The moment when there is nothing left to give. There’s nothing left to sacrifice. The moment when a lonely realization begins to set in: you’re done with that part of your life. Broad declarations about “moving on,” and “starting a new chapter” feel empty and unwarranted. So let’s face it: you simply gave up. Big deal! The power is in knowing when, what, and how to give up…
When to give up
There’s the old saying:
‘If at first you don’t succeed … try, try again’.
Well, years ago I heard a rather refreshing take on this notion:
‘If at first you don’t succeed … try, try again. After that – quit. No sense in being a fool about it’.
A recent forbes article discusses ‘quitting’ as being a non-factor to one’s success and actually encourages doing it often especially when you know something you’ve dedicated your time and energy to is going to fail, or when the passion is gone. Plain and simple. This may be the time to consider giving up. Whatever you decide do not get suckered into overstaying your welcome by these quotes:
never say never 🙂
yes, it is.
This is my favorite. Go ahead, think about why you held on for so long. Also think about what an obnoxious waste of time that was! OK, moving on…
What to give up
Here’s where I just wanted to share an article that I particularly loved – all about the things to give up to be happy. A really good read though you may or may not agree on all points. Still, on a macro level, consider giving up the things, people, places, and experiences that no longer matter to you – those that no longer add value to who you are and the life you want to live. Or not. What you’re giving up is up to you just be careful how you do it. See below.
How to give up
More than anything, give up with gratitude. Be unapologetically thankful for whatever it is you’re putting down for good. Chances are, even though you’re giving it up, you’re a better person for having had it in your life in the first place. And there’s an even greater chance that years from now you’ll be remembered not for what you gave up or when you gave up, but for how you did it :).
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