Published on December 3rd, 2011 | by thevyne1
Sheryl Sandberg’s Tips that Every Professional Woman Should Hear
By Kailei R.
This week, I had the pleasure of seeing Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, speak at Business Insider’s Ignition conference in New York. I first learned about Sheryl about a year ago when a TED Talk she did was circulating through social networks. What she shared about professional women was staggering and disappointing, yet inspiring and empowering. Ultimately, Sheryl Sandberg painted a picture that was not a candy-coated utopia describing that women can do everything and anything, but instead painted a stark reality that was cautiously optimistic but required action.
Below are some of the key take-aways from both my experience with her this week as well as the TED Talk that I think every professional woman should hear. I also recommend watching the TED Talk from December 2010 if you have not already to get the full story:
- Don’t underestimate your abilities! Women systematically underestimate their own abilities. We don’t negotiate for ourselves in the workforce. No one gets a promotion if they don’t understand their own success.
- Pat yourself on the back! Men attribute their success to themselves. Women attribute their success to external factors.
- Unfortunate statistic: success and likability are positivity correlated for men and negatively correlated for women.
- Reach for opportunities! Men are reaching for opportunities more than women.
- Choose the right partner: The most successful career decision you’re going to make is who your life partner is going to be.
- Make your partner a real partner: We’ve made more progress in the workforce than in the home. Households with equal earning and equal responsibility have half the divorce rate. They have a more active love life as well :)!
- Women don’t think they can have it all because they can’t. If it’s not an even split at home, we can’t physically do everything and do them well.
- Don’t leave before you leave: Don’t mentally leave work when you realize you want to have a family one day. Stay in and push hard. Keep your foot on the gas pedal until the very day you need to leave.
- Lean in! Men lean into their careers. Women hold back because they want balance too early and because that’s not how we are conditioned.