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Published on June 26th, 2010 | by thevyne


Hitting Snooze On Your Biological Clock

Turning version 3.4 (34 years old) has brought with it a variety of interesting insights.  For one, we have waaaay more flat shoes in our closets, we all need our sleep, we don’t mind if a night out with the girls ends before midnight, etc. One other major insight we’ve had as of late is that the topic of having children seems to creep into more conversations than not. Something about being “version 3.4” prompts everyone (even random people) to ask, “When are you going to start having some babies?” It’s as if the alarm on your biological clock is ringing loud enough for everyone else to hear it. When you couple that with the alarmingly low marriage rates for successful women of color (black women in particular), what you get are women finding ways to hit the snooze button on the biological clock while we figure out a “plan B” to make this whole baby thing happen before our eggs…<gasp!> run out…<more gasp!>.  Plan B can be anything from freezing your eggs or applying for adoption to asking a male friend that you trust if he would be interested in having a baby with you if both of you are still unmarried and childless by a certain age.

So Vyne readers, we want to hear from you. If you’re in your thirtysomethings and want to have kids but haven’t yet, are you working on your plan B? If so, what is it?

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4 Responses to Hitting Snooze On Your Biological Clock

  1. Felicia says:

    So glad you did an article on this! Though I’m in my mid-30s and single, I feel like my clock is ticking louder to other people than me! I mean, look at Madonna, Halle, and Celine! I mean, maybe they’re celebrities and can afford the means to “help with the process,” but I do feel like I want to have children and one day I will when I’m good and ready. I just wish everyone else around me would shush about it (and hope that my eggs will be available for me when I’m ready :))!

  2. Deena says:

    So you can imagine this scenario for a single woman in her (gasp) 40’s! Luckily I have not had a complete meltdown about having children and have instead decided to look into adoption. I would have loved to hold out for the husband and starting a family together but it looks like there is another plan for me. As I have begun to look into adoption options, I have found that alarm on my biological clock has finally been silenced!

  3. Niki says:

    I’m became version 3.5 this year and I am still holding out a bit a hope that I will find Mr. Right, but I do have a Plan B in my back pocket. I am willing to consider adoption or asking a former boyfriend (he’s a nice guy, we just didn’t work out) if he is still unattached to help me out. If these don’t work out for some reason, I will continue to be the World’s Best Aunt.

  4. Kim says:

    I’m version 3.6 and I’m single w/ nary a prospect of a boyfriend, lol. Getting married and having a child are things I want to do and I will when the time is right and with the right man. I try not to worry about it too much but people are always asking me when I plan to have kids. I use Janet Jackson’s answer “If it’s meant to be it will happen.” My clock is ticking but I just try to stay focused on accomplishing some goals.

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